“The only cure for grief is to grieve.” ~ Earl Grollman
What is Grief?
Grief is a multifaceted emotional response to the loss of someone or something significant, encompassing a range of feelings, behaviors, and physiological reactions. It is a natural and universal experience, although the way individuals experience, and express grief can vary widely depending on cultural, social, and personal factors.
Effects of Grief
Grief affects individuals on multiple levels, including emotional, cognitive, physical, behavioral, and spiritual dimensions. The effects of grief can vary widely from person to person and can manifest in both short-term and long-term ways. Below are some of the ways in which grief can manifest:
Deep feelings of sadness and a pervasive sense of loss and longing for the deceased.
Anger at the circumstances of the loss, oneself, others, or even the deceased.
Feelings of guilt over things left unsaid or undone, or regret over perceived failures or missed opportunities.
Increased anxiety about the future, safety, and security, along with fears of further loss.
A profound sense of loneliness and feeling disconnected from others.
Difficulty focusing, making decisions, or remembering details.
Persistent and intrusive thoughts about the deceased or the circumstances of the loss.
Struggling to accept the reality of the loss and feeling that it hasn’t truly happened.
Negative and irrational thoughts, such as blaming oneself or believing that life has no meaning.
Constant feelings of tiredness and lack of energy.
Loss of appetite or overeating, leading to weight loss or gain.
Insomnia, excessive sleeping, or disrupted sleep patterns.
Physical symptoms such as headaches, stomachaches, chest pain, or muscle aches.
Our Approach
Grief is deeply influenced by cultural, historical, and social factors. We understand the importance of community, spirituality, connection to ancestors, and the land in healing, and we recognize the impact of historical and intergenerational trauma on the grieving process. We approach grief with an emphasis on the connection between individuals, their community, the natural world, and the ancestors. These perspectives are rooted in cyclical views of life and death, where the passing of an individual, cycle, or mind state, is seen as part of a larger spiritual journey. Grieving is deeply interwoven with cultural, spiritual, and communal traditions and we make it a point to honor these. We also take care to address the complexities that historical and intergenerational trauma caused by colonization, slavery, forced assimilation, and cultural suppression have on the grieving process.
Healing and Integration
Viewing grief as a multidimensional experience affecting the mind, body, spirit, and community.
Striving to restore balance and harmony within oneself and the community.
Honoring the wisdom of elders and the presence of ancestors in the grieving process.
Incorporating spiritual beliefs and practices to find meaning and solace in grief.
Engaging in traditional rituals to honor the deceased, the lost, and support the grieving process.
Connection to Land and Nature
Recognizing the land as a source of comfort and healing during times of grief.
Engaging with nature to facilitate emotional and spiritual healing.
Storytelling and Oral Traditions
Sharing stories that connect individuals to their heritage and provide wisdom and strength.
Encouraging individuals to share their personal journeys to foster connection and healing.
Working with the Unconscious
Working with Archetypes and Symbols
Recognizing and working with archetypal images and themes that arise during the grieving process.
Using art, writing, dance, and other creative forms to express and explore grief.
Active Imagination
Using guided imagery and visualization techniques to interact with symbols and figures that emerge in the mind.
Holding imaginary conversations with aspects of the self or the deceased to process grief.
Rituals and Ceremonies
Developing rituals that honor the deceased and support the grieving process.
Engaging in cultural or religious ceremonies that provide a framework for mourning.
Pouring libation as an offering to ancestors and spirits, seeking their guidance and blessings.